My name is Debbie, I am 65 years old and I have been widowed for almost 23 years now.

As I turned 65, I had a profound experience of loneliness which reignited all the emotional symptoms of abandonment we suffer when our soulmate dies, or even worse, falls out of love with us.

I felt deeply depressed for about four weeks, then whilst looking for some psychological help to escape this unhappiness, I discovered the video from James Bauer “His Secret Obsession”.

I hadn’t considered that the underlying cause of my depression was the yearning for my late husbands devotion, after all, I’ve been alone for 23 years now.

Listening to James’ explanations for the emotional desire to be loved, especially as we get older, I came to terms with my deep-rooted need.